Clothes & The Lack Of It…
It’s exactly a week since Pesta Perdana 10 and people are still discussing about the outfits being worn by some of the female artistes. The discussions, rants and complaints have even made its way into the Forum section of Berita Harian this past Wednesday though only two letters were published. I even had visitors to this blog asking why I did not make a mention about it??? I even had people using my blog as a platform to have their own tirade with each other with regards to giving advice and stuff. You guys can check out my Pesta Perdana 10 Review and read the comments cos I won’t be glorifying any of them here.
I have to apologise and say that I am not in the right position to comment on their dressing even if I myself felt a little uncomfortable seeing some of them during the post-event reception. In fact I don’t think I need to sound any displeasure, bang my head against the wall out of frustration or start to be all preachy, even if I know and some of you who know me well know that I am capable of doing that, simply because the community is always the first to bay for blood when it comes to things like these. I believe that each individual who was brave enough to show that wee bit of skin that night are mature and wise enough to know that they are being scrutinised by a very sensitive community, and this is magnified by how many times they appear on the television screens or through having their photographs published by online citizens.
With every Pesta Perdana event, there will always be complaints coming from the general public on the outfits of our female artistes and it’s becoming like a broken record already. Personally I felt this year there was a slight improvement in that at least it was not as bad as the previous edition whereby I thought there were more who preferred to show some skin. I think with each passing edition, stylists and outfitters must be scratching their heads on what to let the artistes wear for the event, and having to minimise public anger to go along with it. From the way I look at it, I think the community expects our artistes to cover up like a certain Dato’ across the Causeway, but we also have to remember that even she herself had been criticised time and time again for her fashion sense, even if her image had always been covered up prior to fashionising the way she covers her head now.
But when I look at the amount of abuse being directed at the female artistes, another question comes to mind. How come a one off event, that happens just once every two years, that is being glorified and given huge attention, can spark so much anger when in actual fact we see so many of our teenage girls, ladies, mothers, even grandmothers showing their skin, flaunt their assets, show off their figure in daring outfits or even the normal mini skirts on a daily basis as we move around the country and these people get away scot-free with murder??? Then there’s also the matter of seeing such unwanted scenes during Ramadhan at the bazaars around the country. Shouldn’t they too be deserving of such rants and complaints as well??? Look I’m not condoning what the artistes wore that night or what some of you might accuse me of favouritism towards friends / acquaintances in the industry, but I think we should start to look at things in a bigger picture than just scrutinise and magnify the actions of a small minority of our community, especially in an event as rare as that.
Yes these artistes are supposed to be role models that people look up to but I’m sure that sometimes the clothes does not make the person. It is one thing to rant and complain but I believe there should also be a way to address it without sounding too emotional, too sensitive and filled with vile and anger, common traits that define us as a community. Being confrontational does not solve the case, in fact I think it might even breed a kind of rebellion in future. This is not to say you can’t give advice, you most definitely can, cos I know you are doing your job and upholding your responsibility as a fellow Muslim but there is a way to voice your grievances without making the other party or even those who digress angry.
Speaking of which, someone commented in that review and it made me quite angry seeing a particular phrase that some of our people love to use out of convenience. I personally hate the phrase and idea of “Your grave you answer, my grave I answer“. To me, whoever that says it needs to go back to religious class and learn that being a Muslim will tell you that your responsibility is to remind and give advice to one another. Our religion is beautiful enough to showcase that we are a kind and sharing lot; that at the end of time, all of us would like to taste the sweetness of Paradise. That accursed phrase only smacks of selfishness and highlights one’s arrogance and apparent bravery in facing the Hereafter as though Paradise is guaranteed for him or her. I don’t think I need to delve further on this topic as this is not meant to be a Forum Perdana. For those of you who are wise enough to see the rationale, I’m sure you would agree and understand what I mean…