Wedding Convoys Should Be Outlawed!!!


Apologies for the non-updates for about a fortnight now. Honestly I didn’t have any suitable material nor subject to talk about till today. Ok, maybe some of you expected yours truly to give another round of update on the second edition of Festival Melayu Ada or to lesser extents, the launching of the compilation album by B8, Zynal and Indonesian group Gasing, or Fauzie Laily‘s showcase at Mayuni Omar‘s Music Cafe, all of which occured over the weekend. Fact is, I did not even attend a single music / entertainment-related event or showcase this past weekend due to personal commitments and the matter of having my second child being down with influenza. Even then, had this particular thing that I am gonna talk about had not happened, I guess the dust and cobwebs would be added on even more on this blog.

I’m sure most, if not all of you have attended weddings whereby the groom would announce his arrival by having a convoy of motorbikes or cars accompanying the wedding car. I’ve seen and experienced that quite a bit, especially when my sister-in-law got married back in 2002. So far I’ve had different experiences with regards to such a grand entrance by a groom, but none have been as bad as what happened this past Sunday. You see, my home is directly facing a multi-purpose hall and whenever there is a function or funeral, we’ll be the ones that will be the worst off in that we have to take in the din. But that’s all fine and dandy cos we’ve grown accustomed to it. But nothing we’ve gone through before this could top the earful experience we had on Sunday.

It so happened that when the groom arrived along with his entourage, I had just painstakingly put my daughter, who was ill, to sleep. And that too after we had a difficult time making her sleep as she needed the rest. Normally when such a convoy arrive and make their entrance known, they would just rumble into the carpark without the need to rev their engines. But this was different. The twenty odd motorbikes literally revved their engines as though they owned the place and did not stop revving even when the wedding car had stopped. You can somehow guess how peeved and worried I was that my daughter would wake up after all that hard work putting her to sleep. Most of the time I can tolerate such a ruckus, but not that day. I had half the mind to stick my head out of the window, hurl some abuse and wave my fists at them. I was close to doing that. And I’m sure whenever such an entrance is made, the residents, depending on their tolerance level, would either be disturbed or choose to let it pass.

Which is why I think for the benefit and pure consideration of residents living in the vicinity, this kind of novel practice of announcing the groom’s arrival should be outlawed or at the very least impose some kind of permit to be granted for them to disturb the peace. Can you imagine the trouble others have to go through having to go through all these even if it’s for a few minutes??? Those who would be studying cannot concentrate, those that are ill and need a rest cannot rest in peace, those that had just returned from work and needed to sleep would be rudely awakened. You’ll catch my drift nonetheless. Ok so some of you might counter and say what’s the difference between a few minutes of the revving of engines as compared to the sound of the beatings of the kompang / hadrah or the incessant off-pitch / off-key / out-of-tune wedding singers whose only shot at stardom are during wedding functions??? The difference is the amount of decibels emitted and it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to tell you what the combination of twenty-odd bikes whose engines were revved up sound like compared to the beatings of the kompang / hadrah or the singing “sensations”. One is already bad enough and enough for one to curse under your breath if someone in the neighbourhood were to do that. Multiply that by twenty and I’m sure you can understand my pain.

I listed the same title header in my Facebook status on Monday and most of the replies I received agreed to what I said with the exception of those who own a bike. Naturally they were defensive about it and I don’t blame them. But just to let them know again and for those of you who ride a bike, this is NOT AN ATTACK ON YOU. Other weddings I went to before this were good and the bikers were generally civilised. Even if they did rev their engines, they were still going along the main road. Only when they turned into the carpark did they tone down the noise level. But sadly the actions of a minority of bikers have spoilt the reputation of most of these civilised ones. And I for one think that because of these uncivilised and inconsiderate people, these kind of convoys should be outlawed for disturbing the peace. One of my Facebook contacts even said that they were blocked by a car so that the whole convoy could travel together!!! In the end they were still stuck at the junction since the light was red again. Imagine if a pregnant lady is going through labour and had to experience all these??? Such audacity to take the law into their own hands, without proper authority, is extremely disgraceful. Sometimes I dunno why people have no consideration nor basic courtesy for their surroundings and think the world owes it to them. Like what another one of my contacts said, “A simple rule: Nobody should ever upstage the newly-wedded couple on their special day…” and it is most definitely an apt reminder…



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11 replies

  1. I can totally relate to what u go thru. I stayed in the 2nd floor and had frequent funerals going on. U know those kind of send offs where their ‘rock band’ plays out frm the carpark all the way to the main road? My window is just metres away frm the road and imagine my exasperation when they started playing while my son is having a nap! I certainly need those time alone to do my housework while my son naps.

    • The subject matter was not on funerals, but on wedding convoys. Funeral practices should be respected and tolerated especially when we live in a multi-racial and multi-religious society. The most important thing is their actions are permitted by law as it is their culture and we have no right in stopping them or to complain about the noise they make. I hope your comments do not start a racial / religious debate cos I certainly did not bring this matter up in my entry and don’t expect my visitors to comment as such. Certain things could be avoided and certain things cannot. Between being considerate and tolerant, I’m sure you can see which one I was trying to highlight…

  2. yeah!!u are right bro…..you are mentioning about the convoys not about the funerals…and yes again hamba setuju 101%% about that motorbike convoy…its aiyah!!! dont knw what to comment lol`

  3. well i certainly had no intention in offending any religion in particular, my apologies if any offence taken. My point is the frustration of enduring with unnecessary noise pollution.. Something that we can do without yet unable to be controlled. Be it wedding, funeral, cars/bikes revving up their engine etc. I do hope other alternatives can be explored. Weddings- community ctr. Funeral- somewhr less human population. Vehicles- either shut up or get the police over.. and the list goes on. Of course all these won’t be made possible altogether. Tolerance is indeed necessary on certain situations however it would be nice if both parties try to accomodate each other’s situation.

  4. i’m quite neutral. depends on the bikes.

    i like the deep rumbles of bigger bikes but definitely not the smaller bikes which makes ear splitting screeches when the rev the engines.

  5. “Funeral practices should be respected and tolerated especially when we live in a multi-racial and multi-religious society”..i agree,even if the rituals starts in the middle of the night,we have to respect,cus wat to say chinese dominant country wad.. n so does malay weddings. although it may be noisy and seems unnecessary, it is still a wedding,respect n tolorence must be given, for all we know it might be the groom requesting such entrance,infact the wedding did had a permit,nwae the noise will only last not more than 10 mins, whereby a funeral some which even last the whole week,if we didnt make any complaints because we respect, why u want to complaint? 10 mins on a sunday afternoon is nothing compared to a week everynight ritual wad? wads next?kompang also outlawed? might aswell outlawed ur family to a nice quiet island… dun u forget, malays are the native of this land.

    • Mr Zhaffi, obviously you didn’t read my comments earlier about what I typed in this entry. This entry was abt being considerate, not about being tolerant. I wasn’t talking about race nor religion. So please stop all these talk about Malays being the natives of this land.

      When I said to respect other races’ and religions’ practices, it is written and understood how they go about doing them, not about them being the dominant race in the country. Dalam budaya Melayu, takde pulak tertulis atau tersirat yang naik motor ramai2 sambil perah minyak menjadi salah satu budaya atau tradisi zaman nenek moyang kita. Tak dituntut dalam ugama pun. But that’s a different matter altogether. Being young, single and with no kids, I can understand that you do not share my views. But I expect some form of courtesy in the way you typed as I believe I’m speaking to an intellectual audience. Was my entry to difficult for you to understand???

      I can tolerate the sound of kompang and I can even tolerate the atrocious singing coming from unqualified wedding singers. But I cannot tolerate inconsiderate people who think they own the place by revving their engines and disturbing the peace especially after what I had gone through. Perhaps when you get married and have kids later on in life, you might see where I’m coming from…

  6. Thank you for bringing up this matter. I had been to several wedding functions before where there would be such convoys who, I suppose, have the idea that their fathers or their grandfathers own the land. Even if that is so, I believe it still doesn’t warrant them to create such public nuisance. Everytime I come across such nuisance in wedding functions, I just wish that I can spray fuel on each and every one of them, especially the unthinking idiot who keeps on revving his bike, and put them all on fire. But of course, we are civilized people. So I guess the best, civilized way, to deal with such uncivilized behaviour is through education. First and foremost would be the bikers group themselves. I’m pretty sure there must be one or two within the group who is still sane and thinking. This person has to realize his/her importance in speaking up to the group and pointing it out to them that the public or the guests at the wedding does not appreciate at all the ‘show’ (read: nuisance) that they are putting up. Secondly would be the bride/bridegroom along with her/his family. They have to realize that, even though they have paid the permit to hold such functions, that permit itself is not a warrant for public nuisance. They have to realize that the function is held within a bigger public sphere, which needs to be respected at all costs.

    For the person who sent the previous post, I think you need to differentiate between noise that serves its purpose and one that does not. Even for Malay weddings, there will be DJs or bands that will entertain the guests from morning till evening with noise coming from the speakers. But all these can still be tolerated because they do serve a purpose, that is to entertain the guests. Similarly, the songs played during Chinese funerals. I don’t think they are happily jamming for fun. What purpose do revving the bike serve? The bikers’ ego? I have no other better reasons to believe that it is. Perhaps these buggers have nothing else to prove their worth, or perhaps they have been lacking or deprived of attention all their lives, so the only way is to rev up the engines to get public attention. And please don’t justify such unacceptable and unruly behaviour by saying Malays are the native of this land. You should be bloody ashamed of yourself for saying that. The Malay natives of this land are the ones who have not only ‘adat’ but ‘adab’ as well. Go read up on your history first before proudly making such claims…

  7. just ban all void deck weddings and funerals.

  8. The topic that were discussed were, at first, very sensitive. That’s what i thought. We can’t help it if the groom or bride are came from a particular bike group. As what Pujangga malam touch, it was never meant to attack any specific bike even for myself, my wedding was a bit massive, i had up to 30 plus big bikes (we are talking about 1000cc and above) escorting my hubby as he is an active member in a bike group. Sometimes groom and bride are unable to say anything as escorts are actually to honour the groom or bride.I agree that some bikes wanted to show off their superstrong engine sound which i felt are a pain in the ear.. Luckily for me, during my wedding, my hubby bike members only sounded their horns. This escort thingy actually hails way back from the early 80s if you want to know.. My uncle are an active member too last time and he says this escort trends exist long time ago and they make more noises than the trend now as last time, they lived in kampongs instead of flats. They belived that a marriage should be a happy occasion and thus more noises should be made to liven up the event. It should not be outlawed but i suggest the head of the group gives out instruction before the escort in respecting the surroundings environment and TRY not to disturb the neighbourhood peace.

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